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Caregiving Motives

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I started my own journey as a caregiver in March of this year. As I continue to read through the Bible since then, I am bombarded by so many verses, thoughts, challenges, instructions, and encouragements for those of us walking this path. Please allow me to share with you what God pointed out to me today.

The apostle Paul addressed the Thessalonian Christians in his first letter to them (1 Thessalonians 1:1-3). He mentions their work and labor for the Lord, describing it vividly in verse 3. I want to compare how these early Christians served the Lord with how I want to serve Him today. Listen to verse 3:

(Paul says): “We recall . . . your work produced by faith, your labor motivated by love, and your endurance inspired by hope in the Lord Jesus Christ.” (CSB)

Work produced by faith

My ministry to my mom includes work! Has faith brought me here? Yes! God’s commands and character opened this ministry to me. Yet DUTY is a cold motive if it’s alone.

Labor motivated by love

But when LOVE enters the equation, it changes everything. (See 1 Corinthians 13:1-3.) This includes both love for God, first of all, as well as love for my mother.

Endurance inspired by hope

I love this last line! Having endurance and feeling inspired seem like opposites. Yet HOPE keeps me enduring this race God has given me. And what does my hope rest in? The fact that this is merely a “season” of my life? That heaven’s coming? Future rewards? Well, no, though those can bring a measure of hope. But my hope must be in my Lord Jesus Christ. What does that even mean? I’m not 100% sure! I have a feeling that I may just learn that on this journey. But I do know that looking at the example Jesus gave me of enduring the cross and looking ahead to the joy awaiting Him, definitely inspires me to keep on going one day at a time.

Maybe you’re not a caregiver today. But in whatever ministry or work or labor you are facing, I hope you can find encouragement from this verse, too. May we live in faith, love, and hope . . . for the right reasons, based on the right foundation, with the right Model to follow.

Five Keys to Happiness

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from Psalm 84 (CSB)

There are five ways to be happy in this psalm! The life of a caregiver doesn’t lend itself to happiness, necessarily. It can be described in many less-than-desirable terms! But here we see God’s advice on how to be happy, no matter what.

1. “How happy are those who reside in your house.” (Ps. 84:4a)

Relishing in God’s nearness every day is possible for everyone! In the time of the psalm-writer, “God’s house” was probably the Temple, the place where God’s glory and “presence” was signified. But since the Messiah came, everything changed. Now God makes His dwelling inside His family of believers. My body is His Temple now! He is always with me. His Holy Spirit indwells me and never leaves me. Focusing on the truth of God’s ever-present nearness should bring me much joy and happiness. He sees what I’m facing today. He knows how I’m feeling. He understands my frustrations and challenges, as well as my sinful tendencies and responses. He is ready to forgive and cleanse me from my poor reactions whenever I confess my failings to Him.

2. “How happy are those who praise you continually.” (Ps. 84:4b)

This sounds so easy! Yet I am so ready to be negative and critical, to focus on all the challenges instead of my Savior’s beautiful face. My elderly parent is not like she used to be. She’s changed and is changing to be less capable than I remember. I need to learn to interact with her differently than I have for decades. Yet how my attitude changes when I focus on God and what He’s doing! There are so may things to be grateful for if I’ll only think on them. God brings little blessings every single day. If I’m not looking, I may miss them! An encouraging text from a friend, saying she’s praying for me; a Bible verse that lifts my focus to the Lord; a hug from an elderly woman with dementia; being able to encourage someone else; a bright sunny day; a beautiful snowfall; safety in a near-accident; a good health report; a reminder of all God has done to save me from my sins and restore a relationship with Him – there are so many reasons to praise God every day!

3. “Happy are the people whose strength is in you.” (Ps. 84:5a)

The longer I care for my elderly mother, the more I see how weak my own strength is! My capacity to endure has its limits, but God’s strength never ends. He may choose to give me the endurance to face life, or He may bring someone else alongside me to help out at just the right time. I can’t do it all on my own. I must be walking closely with the Lord every day, finding my strength in Him. Then I can happily serve others over and over again.

4. “Happy are the people whose hearts are set on pilgrimage.” (Ps. 84:5b)

The life is not the end goal. I’m on a journey to eternal life! One day, all the troubles of this world will be over. My trials and suffering are temporary. What a blessing to remember! Whatever ailment, struggle, worry, or fear I have now, it will not bother me one iota in eternity! This verse reminds me of those faithful saints in Hebrews 11:13-16, who persevered, seeing the promised kingdom through eyes of faith. They realized they were “foreigners and temporary residents on the earth” (v. 13). Caring for an elderly person can seem like a life-long commitment. We don’t know when the end of that journey will come. But it won’t last for eternity!

5. “Happy is the person who trusts in you, LORD of Armies!” (Ps. 84:12)

So much in life comes down to trust. Who will I believe? Who can I truly depend on? If I rely on popular wisdom, I won’t be trusting in the Lord. He will always guide me in His right path, the path toward blessing, peace, and true joy. I want to put all my eggs in His basket, trusting that the outcome He promises will come to pass. When I trust in the Lord, I can release my fears and anxieties and simply rest in His care for me.

I don’t know where you are in your journey of faith or what you’re struggling with today. But God has made it possible for His children to be happy despite great odds. Let’s face this day with His promises from Psalm 84, happy in His presence, with hearts full of His praise, bolstered by His strength, remembering this life is short, and trusting in the LORD of Lords!